How To: Think Forward
I would just like to say that while I write these posts, I recognize that a lot of these are a lot easier said than done. But, I also want to add that none of these things can happen if you do not actively try to make it happen.
These are just some tips I've used in my life to help me get to where I am now.
Shed whatever is reminding you of the past.
A lot of the time, I think it's easy to think back to how stuff happened in life. It can be a certain event that still makes you sad/angry/frustrated, but I find that if you are trying to think forward, you got to let go of all that.
I have had certain events in my life that I still sometimes go back to.
But as soon as I get back into the space, I realize that I'm stuck in the past, when I should be thinking about the future.
So forget the past.
Seriously, try your very best to forget it.
Focus on what changes you want to make.
Even though I am a big fan of forgetting the past, I am also a big fan of using what has happened to you in the past to help you figure out what you want to change in the future.
For me, past experiences have really showed my dominance and stubbornness. While I sometimes think of those instances, I also remember that I want to change that. I don't want my genetic stubbornness to get in the way of relationships.
And so I carry around this past experiences with the idea that they will eventually lower my stubbornness.
Think of all the things that can happen to you in the future.
Sometimes when I have a moment, or even before I fall asleep, I fantasize about the future.
I think about how I want things to play out.
Obviously don't actually believe those things will happen because it's life, and life always gets in the way. But still, take a moment, and think forward.
The more you practice it, the more it'll become second nature. Now I can't sleep without thinking how I wish things to be in the future.
Don't think too far into the future though.
There's nothing wrong with thinking a year or two ahead, but don't think 50 years ahead. You won't even know if you'll live another 50 years! (Life is fragile!)
Just stay rooted in the immediate future, that you can possibly effect right now. Or at least within the next few days ;P
Dream big but realistically.
This goes back into the previous point, but in order for you to think forward, you need a dream/goal you are trying to reach.
For me, my dream is to be not only financially stable but also to be doing a job I actively enjoy doing and still challenges me. But also, another dream I have is to be surrounded by the people I love, and, hopefully, start a family.
But I don't even think that far. I just day dream about when I graduate, what my dream job is, where I might be settling down, and whether or not my boyfriend and I will be able to be living together.
Anything beyond that, I stay away from.
Of course, I do have momentary lapses where I think 5-6 years ahead of how I want my boyfriend to propose...but I feel like I'm not the only one who dreams of that right? ;P
Thinking forward is something I've become very good at, especially because I hate living my life thinking about my regrets. (It's a pet peeve I have...)
So now that you've seen my tips, how do you try to think forward?