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How To: Find Your Personal Style

How To: Find Your Personal Style


Do you need help/tips to finding your personal style? Well, I'm here to help you! 

I've finally found mine, so let me share with you how I got there :)

Figure out who you are. 

Style, in my opinion, should emanate who you are as a person. So that's why the phrase, 'style evolution' is a thing, because as you grow, you change as a person. And as you change, your style preferences change as well. 

So before you figure out how you want to look on the outside, find who you are on the inside. 

Now, disclaimer, this notion isn't set in stone, you will change, and that is something you always should take into account. 

But figure out who you are at this particular point in your life, and then go from there. (My style was never like this when I was 13, and it certainly wasn't like this even last year.) 

Understand how fashion fits into your lifestyle. 

What I see happen a lot is people making their lifestyle fit what they wear, and I think that's the fast track way of hating clothes in the (near) future. 

Figure out how fashion fits into your lifestyle, because it should be integrated, not stood out.

I never choose what I do based on what I want to wear, but I always choose what I wear based on what I do. 

Browse to your heart's content. 

Let's be real here for a moment. With so much information at our finger tips, it's really hard to find your own style, so I absolutely 100% encourage you browse Pinterest, Instagram, Vogue, or wherever you find your fashion inspiration. 

Sometimes we think we like a certain style, but as soon as we see it on other people, we might not like it, and vice versa. Find the trends/clothes you want to try via the internet, there's nothing wrong with that. 

But remember that style is individualistic. 

While you should absolutely browse online resources, just remember that what other people can/do wear may not be relevant for you. 

For example, I see a lot of people wear rompers, and absolutely rock it. But for me, I can't. I fancy a lifestyle that is simple, where I don't need to take off my entire outfit to go to the bathroom during the day. But what others choose to wear is their prerogative, and absolutely their decision. 

Just make sure what you choose to wear is your decision as well, and not because other people expect it of you. 

Be realistic. 

This goes for finding your personal style, and just shopping for your personal style in general. 

Stay realistic in who you are, and in how much you can actually spend. You don't want a super amazing/fancy wardrobe but not have enough money for experiences/food/rent etc etc. 

An example for me is that I really want a solid leather jacket. But those jackets, or anything leather in general, costs more than what I make (on a college student's salary). So I can't own a leather jacket...yet. However, I gotta be realistic about this, no matter how badly I want it. 

Classic before trendy. 

This is a rule I almost exclusively live by when shopping. I always ask myself, whenever I'm buying a new piece, whether or not I will still be able to wear this piece in 6 months, 1 year, 5 years, and 10 years from now. Of course, in 10 years I will be 32, and may be rocking a different kind of wardrobe, but I still ask myself that. 

Of course, I am not barring you, or me from purchasing trendy pieces. What's wrong with following some trends? But just remember that you don't want a wardrobe full of trends, because trends are things that will eventually go out of style. 

Comfort before style. 

Now this is a rule I exclusively abide by whenever I'm walking out of my house (excluding the gym). I never want to walk out of my house feeling any sort of discomfort in what I wear. 

I know that as soon as I walk out feeling uncomfortable, my entire day is going to be ruined, no matter how good I look. 

If anyone tells you that you can't be comfortable and fashionable at the same time, I'm going to encourage them to look at Instagram accounts @bellabucchiotti, @kirstenortez, @kateogata etc etc. 

It takes time, and experiences. 

A big misconception about style is that you can find it immediately. I don't think that's true, because there's no way we start our style journey from the womb. We start our style journey with time, age, and experiences. 

So if you are reading this post hoping for an epiphany of sorts, I'm sorry to disappoint. 

Everyone is different in what they experience, so everyone's style will be different as well. Stick with what you know, and make that transition until you're happy with where you are. 

I, at 23, am finally happy with my personal style. And it took me 23 years! 

What other questions do you have about finding your personal style? 

If you feel you've found it, what other tips would you give to others? 

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